I too can help you setup a BTCPay server if my friend utxo is too busy.
Discussion
Q: Do you need to host a node on the same VPS as you're running the #BTCPay server on or can you connect remotely to the node using c-lighting-rest, spark, etc?

A connection via VPN is possible. The whole thing via LND-Rest, for example.

I'm running Core Lightning so but I guess the TCP option on c-lightning is c-lightning-rest. Thanks anyways, I'll check out the docs.
Did you set up a Wireguard tunnel for the LND-Rest traffic?
Tailscale would also be an option that works reliably.
You don't. It can be anywhere as long as you have network access to it.
How do I find live spaces to listen to and participate in?
Same. Willing to help where I can.

Really what I need to do is take my install scripts off the back burner and finish those.
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