I came across a "deleted account" in my follows, someone who started on nostr over a year ago but gave up just recently. In their last post they said they'd genuinely tried but it just wasn't working out for them. However, when I checked their stats on nostr.band the results were unsurprising. They were not actively using nostr. They posted maybe 1 note a day avg., never zapped anyone (publicly at least), and only followed ~ 200 accounts. That is not "genuinely trying" to use any social network, including nostr. You get out what you put in with most things in life, and nostr is no different. It's ok to be a passive lurker, but if that's all you put in then you probably won't get much out of it. If you want to find depth of experience here, be present and active, and engage with people in meaningful ways using the features of the network that allow you to do so. You will make or break your own #nostr experience.