If you haven't attracted the hostility of DS at least once, you are failing. It denotes lack of respectability.

Kind of like my dance instructor expressed it: "No, we're not actually doing that routine - I was just being mean to [fiancé]. It's my love language."

Substitute love for respect and there you go. If DS didn't respect you he would just call you a dog or roach or something. Or mute you.