I understand and I also choose to believe they can... It's just is only possible if they want to go through the pain of doing so, and accepting that we are all human, we aren't perfect but we must take accountability for our shortcomings, to learn and not repeat them. Otherwise without true understanding of our actions the patterns will just continue... It doesn't make us "less than" to make mistakes and there is so much we can learn from how those who love us express themselves towards us.

I like the way you put it on this note. I think the bottom line is the willingness of the person. Sometimes a new context helps them see, a specific person helps them sail through that pain and they ultimately help each other...

Like 🐈‍⬛, one sure thing is we can do that shadow work for ourselves ✨