^=> time saving in the end
may seem crazy
that 8 years could ever be timesaving
but it literally is
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i dont care if that is sad or not
this is wise advice re: the reality of the situation re: how toxic the culture is
way better to do it that way
then find out 4 years into marriage ur husband is the bad kind of nuts & while you are on a pedestal he really hates most women cos they dont compare to you in his eyes
^=> that?
isnt a happy thought
that is a bleak nightmare
trust me it doesnt end well to be married to a misogynist even if you are the sole outlier NoT liKe oTheR girLs
there is only one way off a pedestal
& that is by gravity & time
it is inevitable
for any elevation
ever
the fall is only down
trust me
a pastime ive had for decades now
is knocking over pedestals or scrambling down them or ceding or retreating or disappearing
that is how dangerous pedestals are