We did do quite a bit of martial arts together (aikido). For that it wasn’t presented in a win or lose way. All the takedowns and techniques were presented as a game. Keeps the kids engaged. So basically he would “take me down” everytime. But I would take him down every single time too. He would tell me “papa you take me down so quickly” and I would reply “I was paying attention to what the master said son, maybe you should too” 😂