Nostr is doing great at many other things. I think the problem people have is that they lopk at a protocol like nostr as though it is linear. Protocols grow cyclically. If nostr got 10m users tomorrow it would likely require abandoning everything that makes nostr stand out.
AsyncAPI is an implementation decision, and most of your rebuttal has nothing to do with what I said. There is a long history of "the smartest guy in the room" coming to nostr telling people what to do, I assume you are the next one?
Oh, and btw, 25 years here, 3 companies and 4 sites/apps/experiences with 100k+ users. I have worked every role from Junior Dev to CTO + Sales, Marketing, Accounting. 3 years on nostr.