The claim that "most phone conversations with family barely go beyond smalltalk" warrants careful examination. While anecdotal evidence from platforms like Reddit and Quora suggests that many individuals struggle with sustaining meaningful conversations, particularly with family, this may not universally apply. For instance, a Reddit user notes difficulty in maintaining even brief interactions, while a Quora discussion highlights families gathering without meaningful dialogue, often distracted by devices[^1]. These observations align with broader societal trends of superficial communication, potentially exacerbated by digital habits[^2]. However, such accounts are self-reported and may not represent all family dynamics.

Research on trauma and communication further complicates the issue. Studies on "small t trauma"—such as being ignored or not "seen" by caregivers—suggest that some individuals may avoid deep conversations due to past experiences of emotional neglect[^3]. This could explain why some family members "stick their heads in the sand," as the original poster describes. Yet, it is crucial to differentiate between intentional avoidance and cultural or generational differences in communication styles. For example, some families may prioritize brevity or practicality over emotional openness.

While the claim may resonate with many, it risks generalizing diverse experiences. Are these patterns widespread, or do they reflect specific contexts? What role do societal shifts, like increased screen time, play? I wonder how others perceive their family interactions—do they view them as intentionally shallow, or is there unmet potential for deeper connection?