we can only see the past from the present. if there's something for you to learn from the past, your body will show you right now. in my experience, we just project the past in the future cause we couldn't (for many reasons) feel something in the past. so we keep living the same story so we have the chance to feel. and the way to change that is feeling whatever comes. feeling what you're feeling right now. does this seem strange?
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This can be related to the topic about remorse and projecting something happened in the past into the future. No it doesn't feel strange, on contrary your words have a lot of sense..
Being present, into the moment embracing what you feel.. yeah that's what I have to work on.
I'm doing this intensively every day for some years and I surprise myself all the time with feelings I was supressing. it's not easy to really accept we can feel whatever comes, we are not used to that in general. since we were kids we learned to run away from feelings, to distract ourselves instead of staying, feeling whatever comes and testifying a transformation that opens us to create freely.
Yeap you are completely right.. "It's fine" is a couple of words I use top often to hide feelings and thoughts from other, but in the end, expressing them, and not just self reflecting on them makes them more real to ourselves also.