Couldn't agree more. This another thing I liked about web 1.0. Because you just had people who were likeminded forming communities you could naturally meet someone if you turned out to be close irl.

Met multiple ex's like this.

Wouldn't even bother on Tinder or similar bullshit, but hopefully the direction Nostr is going in continues to cultivate the web 1.0 vibe where it was all chill and natural socialising without algos manipulating people into being angry and miserable.

But anyway as for irl just hit up meetups surrounding hobbies or interests likely to have a good gender mix. Much more chill and natural than shit like the club scene.