Same issue. Terrible experience connecting to own node
Do you connect it to your own node?
It's been a while but I gave up on nostr:npub1cvqlzvmjercdn0ypsmv8f7j9lge6ahsnueh5rparh53wuswftv4q49yjt3 wallet due to how bad the UX was when connected to my Start9 over Tor.
Wish it was better because integration wth Tapsigner was great.
Same issue. Terrible experience connecting to own node