I went to a intro to foster care meetup a few months ago to ask questions and they have those kids locked down. Its really sad, another example of the state failing children.

For example: I asked if I can take the kid

snorkeling/diving. They said I can't let them get into any body of water without a certified lifeguard nearby. I can't get the kid a haircut with permission. If I get more than one, each kid has to have their own room even if same gender... even though I and most of humanity throughout history shared rooms with their siblings.

I'm thinking at this point, it would make more sense to adopt once I expatriot to a country where adoption/foster is easier.

One more antidote: my friends sister had a kid she was going to put up for adoption. My friend decided to adopt the kid and she had to pay the adoption agency $10-15k to adopt her own niece...