Not rules but narrow down the scope of context
Discussion
This is really interesting because immediately I was struck by how subjective this all is, comfort of clothing, weather, how your body feels today, confidence, so many things come in to play making your decision what to wear. With so many expectations in society about how one should look, very localized of course, hard to make generalizations. Some do appear over and over again though like straight males trying to see women’s bodies more and women always suspicious of men’s motives to push the boundaries. Are we getting tired of these tropes and occupying our minds with their concerns or are we having fun with it and working towards some truths and better understanding of others’ experiences in the world? nostr:note1rcl8xrgg4s4vschvul4wqcn29kym0a2j2n42mfw3ntfe6gfuh9ls2alxpq
Women are typically suspicious of men’s motives because of their prior experience. I think most men would be shocked how young women typically are the first time they are cat-called, harassed, or assaulted. When you lead with a statement that’s reads as a man wanting women to not wear bras for his own viewing pleasure. It’s not really opening up the floor for an open and honest discussion.
🤔 There are a few things to unpack here at least:
Not really sure why/how it’s not open and honest to admit wanting of something that is generally regarded as a statement that would generate negative feedback from women specifically. In my experience it’s not usually a good strategy to piss women off. So right away it’s taking a risky leap which I took to the next level tagging a few women on nostr I have never met in person but judged as having a good sense of humour to start things off.
I’m certainly tired of feeling guilty about my attraction to women’s bodies, how there are eggshells everywhere around expressing that because other people feel the same way, don’t know how to express it in a healthy way where everyone enjoys it or at absolute worst cause harm or trauma to a woman, and lack the wherewithal to know the difference when it’s not appropriate.
Myself the whole point of this is to test the waters and be a better person hopefully for it; having had some difficult conversations to create better judgment for what to say, how to act, and maximize everyone’s experience.
Hope that makes sense and yes you’re probably right I think most men are quite ignorant of how young this all starts for women and difficult to fend off, never any end of it in sight.
I do my best to focus my positive energy on my wife (and much of the time it’s too much for her so I am still learning how to do that so she gets the most out of it and doesn’t feel simply objectified.) then suppress everything else as much as possible for where I am at in my life. Can’t imagine it’s really a healthy thing to do forever though. Time will tell and I will adjust accordingly. 🤙🏻