I've given up on the idea of running my own node, I've just decided to have a hot wallet where I keep a little Bitcoin for spending, an offline cold Storage solution for most of it, and just use a regular lightning address for zaps.
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Can I help you run your own mode? Its easy!
I don't know if I want too, think I'd rather just keep it in cold Storage.
Nut when you use your cold storage wallet you are giving up your xpubs to a third party.
Samourai wallet servers got seized last week by the DOJ. Which wallet is next?
You can use your hardware wallet with your own node.