if someone is suddenly full of rage, aggressive or a total dick at any of these talks of course snap back at them

or leave it & wreck them later if they dont stop acting in a way that is hurtful & counterproductive & painful

but if everyone is working relatively well together earnestly trying to riddle this out..

everyone equal

or err that you as in first person you (whoever you are, attendee, reader, etc) are the dimmest one here to simply listen

truly does this orientation tune you fastest, in my experience anyway, into hearing what people are actually trying to teach & contribute & share & give