Why not both.
Discussion
One takes care of the other
I think it's a misconception that people should do one before the other. They can be pursued at the same time.
It's a nice concept, and yes, I do believe is possible, but don't believe is that common.. 🍀
Both is the apex, but for reach that I do believe we should able to be happy alone to really be happy with someone else and make her/he happy too