I’m going to talk about this in more detail later but:

Despite the fact I have little personal investment in being a man, other people—often total strangers—seem to have a whole lot of investment in me being a man.

Every time I go, “Okay, I’m going to step away and hang out here in a corner by myself,” a whole lot of people—and not just dudes—seem to walk over to my corner to check on what I’m doing.