We are only triggered when we see in others what was rejected or not-allowed inside ourselves.

“Whenever you get triggered, somebody pulled that trigger perhaps... but who is the one carrying the ammunition? How you handle people who trigger you, that is your call. At least know that you are the one with all the explosive inside you, and you gain so much liberation if you find out what that ammunition is and how you got it. Then you can learn to diffuse the bomb by getting to know yourself, and that’s where freedom actually lies.” - Gabor Maté

I used to feel that way quite often, then I learned to ask myself in the moment:

1) What am I seeing that I had to learn to shut down in myself?

2) Instead of fighting to shrink that part in someone else (out of my control), how can I grow this part of myself that had never seen the light?

Always a work in progress...

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I just started reading a book called no parts. This kind of reminds me of it. There are different parts in all of us that are trying to protect us from something but they are often frozen in time (usually childhood) and no longer serve us.

Purchased. Thank you for the recommendation! 🫂

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Most often my emotional pain is internally generated. Learning to analyze root causes helps me to slow down and respond more thoughtfully to emotional triggers.

Another thing that helps me is to realize that some feelings you just have to sit with and feel to let them out. If you weren't able to feel all the sadness or panic or anger etc in the moment something happened to you, if it's all too much, your body will store that emotion away for later. These stored emotions can be released during times of stress causing us to "overreact". Recognizing that some of what you are feeling is not caused by the present situation can go a long way toward being able to regulate your reactions.

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Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie is about feeling these past emotions in order to release them from your body.