You need to fall in love with Mainline DHT and Synonym is going to show you why & how.
Start with this article/research by Severin on DHT censorship-resistance and numbers.
https://medium.com/pubky/mainline-dht-censorship-explained-b62763db39cb/
Discussion
nostr:npub1p23eukh0nxsqpfaakz6fj9vvj27y4gs0kevnrffdq4d4adkl7uuq7crnl6 here's more of that DHT info I promised.
nostr:npub185h9z5yxn8uc7retm0n6gkm88358lejzparxms5kmy9epr236k2qcswrdp some counters to your DHT concerns from our conversation last Spring.