Hmm... In some aspects probably yes, but I think in a single situation there is no shame at all. Not every man is going to initiate because we all have our insecurities, past experiences or in this scenario because he's respecting a boundary that she can later withdraw.

Unfortunately society shames both men and women for multiple things, almost feels like no action is ever fully right for either, so we just got to do what feels right for us in the moment I'd think.