I have to agree with you, like it's still kind of a problem on Mastodon where people aren't always civil, even though it's also an open protocol sort of deal, but I think when you strip out the algorithm and the incentive to be knee-jerk angry, it honestly does create a nicer environment. Something I think a lot of us kind of learned from Twitter where reacting quickly, and over-the-top got you follows, it got you views, and clicks, and it became this thing we were trained to do ... like digital dogs, almost? You know? And I also think transmitting value to others, in a real tangible way kind of even further dilutes that knee-jerk reaction. I agree that people should be responsible for curating their own feeds. Make your space what you want it to be. One of the things that drives me up the wall on Mastodon, even still today, is people demanding others censor their own content for people who don't want to see it ... when the tools to not see things you don't want, are always right in front of the user making demands of others.
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Agreed on all counts. The average social media user has been trained by the red-notification-dot dopamine hits to behave generally unpleasantly! And behind screens and keyboards, there isn’t much of the social feedback we’d recieve if we actually behaved that way around people in the physical world.
So it combines addictive incentives and rewards, for negative and antisocial behavior, and then monetizes it all, for the profit of the companies providing the platforms.
On top of that, we’re coddled by paternalistic moderators to expect that someone else will do the work to ensure that the content we consume is palatable, while simultaneously self-censoring for fear that the platform mods (or other trigger-happy users) will take issue with a comment or point of view, and subsequently get de-platformed from the toxic digital relationship playground we’ve become so addicted to…
It’s no surprise that many of us are looking for a way to opt out!
On one hand, it's an etiquette thing to content warn on posts of obscene or vulgar matter. same goes for including tags that are specific enough to be parsed. However, individual sensibilities vary wildly, and it's impossible to cater to everyone.
On the other hand, Mastodon/ActivityPub is stuck in that twitteresque culture, and never matured beyond that.
Now, at least with #Nostr and it's relay system, clients can choose to exclusively use restrictive relays like what's capable with #ditto to tailor their feed as they see fit, or include less restrictive relays when they choose.
I tailor my relay to remove a lot of detestable events, but in my own clients use more than just one relay.
I think the relay system is definitely something I need to explore some more and figure out how it can be used this way
I haven’t really encountered much of anything I object to on here besides maybe like 1 or 2 people, which isn’t that bad at all all things considered lol