I think your powers of observation are serving you well and I generally agree with your assessment.
I've moved to the pantheistic model of God and that has been helpful for my understanding. Way fewer things conflict with that model.
To find truth one must be where you are: willing to let go of any given thing that you were taught in your past.
That doesn't mean you must let go of everything you were taught in the past...just that you must be willing to let any of it go, as it could be false or distorted to some degree.
You are not alone in your thoughts. Those thoughts are what has driven my research.