I think you should just ask the guy what he’s looking for and tell him what you’re looking for. That’s what nostr:npub1e2rd2k45ym2jmctnysfadxumrvrr57vqj69ck6trt2y62c40r0kqs9lx8t and I did and I can’t overstate how nice it is to not find any surprises as you progress in the relationship.