Your fear that he is not dead, is your fear of being manipulated. The question should not be "is he alive or is he dead" it should be "is the movement caused by this event something I support?" In that case, you either decide to get on this train, or wait for the next train. This train is one of peace, one where you could effect change, if you decide to wait, the next best option is likely one of war, where your sons will pay with their lives.