My kids are 16 and 18. Boy and a girl. They have never been grounded by me. Never have we had am argument. I'm good friends with both. They both have great hobbies and excel at everything. No time outs required. No yelling. Just let them play and be there for them.

Then they love you for it and want to please yoi because there is trust.

I guess that's parenting but that feels a lot like being a teacher.