Sometimes saying mean words is a greater kindness than not saying them. I have seen language some would regard as venomous save the life of an addict that may not have mulled over their actions long enough if not for the lingering sting of truth.

A lovers quarrel never fixed because apologies came too quick, and the counseler was the only one willing to say them.

A narcissist slowly gaining emotional control over the empathetic who could not resist, and nobody else was willing to say the mean words to pull them away.

Kindness is not just nice words, it is also a painful language that saves at the right time or inspires a better way of living.