It’s full of assholes in this world, the sooner she starts to manage them the better, no use in shielding kids from reality
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I’m inclined to agree. This is a life lesson that things don’t always go your way - however harshly delivered.
As for kid, I’d find that same activity outside of school if possible.
You could also just show up in school and create a shitstorm. 50/50 gets into orchestra or gets expelled.
As harsh as this sounds, I tend to agree. Communication is key, talk about why these things happened, how she can navigate the emotions, and crush it next time.