Homey needs to man up and work.
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If homie is a server and lady is manager at a retailer with health insurance, homie needs to dad up
It's best for lady to mom up and homey to dad up, even if their economic standard of living is lessened (as long as they have food and shelter).
Money is not more important than family life. But a good, stable family life statistically results in better finances generationally.
I'm not judging. I know it's hard. Just saying.
Would nostr:npub1a2cww4kn9wqte4ry70vyfwqyqvpswksna27rtxd8vty6c74era8sdcw83a family be better off with her as home maker and her husband a car salesman?
I don't know her, but I've known car salesmen who make a respectable living.
It's true that two wage earners make more money combined. But a solid family is more important than wealth.
In many cases (not all), a family can save money by Mom momming her kids, acting as the heart of the home, while Dad works as the breadwinner, dadding and husbanding when he comes home.
If he makes 60k a year and she makes 600k, they won't have to give up eating if she quits and raises the kids and keeps the home. They just might have to give up expensive vacations and some extra cars and boats.
Depends on what a person's priority is in this short life.
I don't think worshiping the dollar is a good investment.
I didn’t make this about money, this was in response to your initial post re “crippling finances”
A 60k income for a family is the poverty line. 600k is financial freedom and debt free living. Seeing some of your other posts it seems like that’s important to you. Hell the whole family could take off of work for a decade after three prime earning years.
Most financial hardships are caused by revenue problems not expense problems
It’s not giving up a vacation or fancy cars here and there it is much much more than that, least of which is worshiping the dollar. It’s qualifying for a mortgage in a neighborhood to send the kids to a reasonable public school.
I’m also not saying the inverse (woman work dad home). It’s case by case. Your initial post created an image of a woman that has a shopping problem. It placed the blame of financial hardship on her unwillingness to be a homemaker
Lynn is an accomplished engineer and now Macro analyst. I used her as an example of someone who in almost all cases would be the breadwinner.