This is either a very hot or a very reasoned take and I am quoting my previous note for being potentially related but I'm not a fan of software choices being grouped together or categorised for certain types of people.

If you are using something only because a forum or a thread on social media told you to, then you are more of a sheep than the people using the platforms you are moving away from are. The latter are at least doing it out of a personal preference, not out of being alternative or contrarian. You don't need to be hardcore and use something that sticks to a specific social group.

Don't ask what the best of something is, ask WHY it is. Learn about the subject and see critically and you'll always find what the best project is for you. Don't walk in other people's shoes.

Research skills is everything. Read more. I think I read too little.

I once read a post off platform a while ago about how someone felt wrong leaving GrapheneOS to use something else because of (very justifiable) personal reasons to support their needs. The fact someone would feel really ashamed and negative that they aren't meeting some imposed values from some social group (over a software choice) is not okay. You can use and build what you want. This isn't purity testing. It comes across as a deeply toxic relationship between users.