I found some things!!

Self hosted Lightning address service that works with LND and Nostr: Nostdress https://github.com/believethehype/nostdress

Self hosted nostr wallet connect: https://github.com/getAlby/nostr-wallet-connect

Both have prebuilt images on GitHub Container Repo. Dead simple deployment for a smooth brain like me. nostr:note1l26r96x4j6ex967hd5p5fsjc4u4fh3hjy2ustfwhd8pzt93krp8quzy4e2