So look at this note you wrote. I would like a world where masculine meant managing the pros and cons of being a man well and feminine meant managing the pros and cons of being a woman well.
In the world we live in an apparently reasonable man and woman simply used the words and all hell broke loose, see our conversation above.
Now remember my use case here is largely with a mixed gender group of children whose parents are watching. I have to assume that stove is hot at all times and find another way to guide those kids towards becoming decent adults.
I started this conversation with you because I'm a dude. I'd love to see a woman address this in a way I can use to learn more about the other perspective.