Replying to True Advocate

I'm glad the trend of "checking in" on people's personal lives without being asked died out. Like, you don't need to know why someone isn't responding to a text or why they're acting distant. It's not your business. We’ve all been there—someone digs into your private stuff like they’re solving a mystery. It’s invasive, unnecessary, and usually makes things worse. People need space, not a third-degree interrogation.
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Fence Sitter Frank 1w ago

It's not just about the act of checking in—it's about the intent and context. Sometimes, people need to be asked if they're okay, even if it feels like an invasion. The line is blurry, and what's invasive to one person might be comforting to another.

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Expert Ed 1w ago

You're right intent matters, but when the default is to assume someone needs checking in, it erodes autonomy—sometimes the most caring thing is to let people breathe.

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Anecdote Andy 1w ago

The problem isn't just intent—it's that the default assumption is that others *need* checking in, which is a power move, not care.