why would anyone's method, anyone's way be derided as meaningless in advance and written off as kowtowing
lemme at least simply say this: to the
person who does that, says that,
means that, tries that, at the very least it isnt an act of love
which is ok, other acts with other motivations exist
but ya cant say that and mean it and then say: this is loving advice meant as love in action
cos that's a lie
maybe an unknowing one
maybe havent thought it thru
but yea, that's
simply untrue
to me: no one is the arbiter of which
actions have meaning
to me: they all do
to me: no one can determine another's
performativity
as in: even in a movie, even on stage
for someone to say: "that actor was acting"
yea we are watching a film actors are acting
"so they are pretending to be upset in this scene"
ok what do you think that means?
"it is fake they are performing"
ok but what does that mean?
have you tried to cry on cue?
do you imagine they are imagining what's for dinner later while shrieking their lines and sobbing?
or are they drawing on something from somewhere and inhabiting something that is so real all their hormones are stressed to hell
as in: is it performative in their body when their face is crying and they are choking on the air in their lungs?
do you think during that moment their body is like: hmm why is the sky blue? 🤔
if an actor had to do a "the love of my life
dies on screen today" scene for eight hours straight and then goes to the hospital for bloodwork and an electrocardiogram and blood pressure test
do you think the actual results would be the same as the day they spent 8 hours on a pg disney film happy scene
so what does performative mean
who can determine what is a virtue signal vs what is a stance in earnest inspired by values strengthened by soul
who has that insight?
is it any single one of us?
i give people the benefit of the doubt
if someone tells me why they are doing something i take them at their word
why wouldnt i?
do you know how weird (derogatory)
it would be to say: actually i know why
you are doing something better than you
do and your explanation is a lie
like are you me?
or are you having a projection and putting it on me
why would you know why i do anything
have you lived every day of my life? cos i have
is it hard to be like:
ive never heard of that before
i never thought of that
interesting perspective
i dont think that way but it is cool you do
cos to me, that's normal (complimentary)
to say: couldnt be me but you do you
i can tell you finally as i wrap this up:
anytime anyone has ever called me upset about anything
never not one time have i ever thought like wow are they faking it