So in that case I’d privately message them on another app that’s not nostr to send them a simplex code. Why use nostr to begin with and why not just stay on another app?
I couldn’t post the code in public and in some case one or both parties could be killed if the exchange or communication is detected.
If a nip fixes that problem, I’d rather just use nostr.
The question for me is what if nostr is your only connection with them. Even NIP 44 is not private on the same level as Signal or SimpleX. But it should be safe to send a message saying "do not respond to this, contact me using SimpleX". With the new version, metadata is more hidden, but relays can infer things based on traffic, and account compromise can reveal history. That's not good enough in life or death scenarios.
I’d have someone else contact them or contact them from my anon account. My best friend doesn’t even know my anon to protect her.
Sometimes there are codes like emojis etc. I’ll post “I’m eating feta cheese on my main so you know it’s me at 4pm”
to be fair, both simplex and session both use tor somewhere in the protocol. session uses it pretty deeply. Using tor with nostr would be pretty secure with a separate key to your main forum key, especially if you shared it via simplex or session or so.
