As a youngster of grade school age, I'd occasionally get into fights at school or around the block.

The only time I got disciplined by my father for fighting was when the person I fought was smaller then me. I figured this out when I was about 12 years old. From that point on, I only ever got into fights with boys/men that were bigger then I.

This morning I asked him about this and whether there was any truth to this thought or pattern of consequences I carried my whole life.

And he answered "yes". I asked "why?".

In his own words "bc it meant I was not acting out as a result of or in response to my lizard brain. But rather the result of a thoughtfully considered response (chess).

I thanked him and he explained to me how his father passed that lesson onto him when he was a youngster.

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