I understand the frustration.

Two points:

1. Most people CAN'T be worried about that stuff because the whole world is literally trying to kill them slowly after bankrupting them. That's the reality we live in. Maybe be a bit kinder to people in general?

2. Nostr doesn't work like anything else. You're still pretty new to it, but, it can and does get better as you build connections. I would encourage you to take some more time here before you bounce.