If alcohol doesn't agree with you, then don't drink. I know people like that, just one gin and they cry all night. ahhhh. A little alcohol helps to relax and lose shyness. You don't need magic, you're a smart and perceptive girl. Just be yourself. What is natural is good. As we say here, those who don't like it can put it on the edge of the plate. (If you don't like it, you don't have to eat it.)