Being smart is easy. Being kind and patient is hard.

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patiently waiting to swap some funny money for moooooar sats

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Iโ€™ve never found this an issue in real life.

On this site. I agree.

But maybe being mentally abusive to others is normal around here & others are ignoring that fact. Not sorry to be the one to call others in on this. At all.

Word of the day for me. So worth it. Being patient, kind and supportive with the bare intention of love makes it lighter. ๐Ÿค

What is the word? This is my word. ๐Ÿ‘‡

If people donโ€™t understand my love language comes with **all** the emotions ( and beyond ) thatโ€™s on them. The world is burning and disheartening.

Some lead with acceptance & love for all. I love humanity enough to allow myself to be called in. Facing the fire ๐Ÿ”ฅ directly.

This should make sense to some. โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’šโฃ๏ธ๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ˜ป๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’๐ŸคŸ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜ฝ

I just said itโ€™s worth it to be patient and kind instead of having an โ€œI am smarter and betterโ€ attitude when it comes to making others realize something or explaining something etc. :)

Feel your feelings girl. I think I itโ€™s important to have friends & family that accept every nuance of it. ๐Ÿซ‚

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Being a kind and patient father has been the thing that has made me more kind and patient in the rest of my life.

In 2017 I walked away from a business that paid me over 1m a year. I had a 1yr old daughter and my new wife, 12 years my younger still had corporate goals she wanted to reach. Even though her income is good, it was insignificant to my earning potential. However, Iโ€™d had enough. After a failed marriage and the constant drive for success I felt I had let my first child down (she was 3 at the time my wife left 2006) all my success came post 2006 and i started the grind in 2008. My first child didnโ€™t have what I grew up with - stable home and two loving parents - I had her weekly and we are close but it has always niggled me that I failed her in this respect.

So back to 2017, I resigned, negotiated an exit from the shares, sold below market value to exit immediately.

I now have a boy and a girl 7/8 respectively whom Iโ€™ve been there daily for and I see my 20 yr old regularly.

I like to think that I am a good father rarely have cause to raise my voice and my young kids are well adjusted and very polite and happy. Both excel at school regarding people skills.

In 2020 I discovered Bitcoin and with my financial background, it clicked immediately. My new wife is a lawyer who is slowly opening her eyes to the fiat world but she isnโ€™t ready to embrace Bitcoin so i travel this epoch alone.

In January 2025 I will have traversed my first cycle and god itโ€™s been painful and stressful but Iโ€™m a fighter and I can see whatโ€™s going on around me. Slowly but surely my eldest daughter is now starting to get it, as I point her in the right direction of books to read . She is now asking the right questions. However, Our relationship can be stormy because she can be aggressive like her mother.

I have learnt to be patient with her and kind because this is not her fault.

Kindness and patience will rise above any trait a human can possess because thatโ€™s what makes us human. Iโ€™m a better father now than Iโ€™ve ever been.

Thank you, my first zap ๐Ÿ’ช and lightning experience

I would love to give more, but Iโ€™ve spent my amount that theyโ€™ll let me this week. Iโ€™m really sad. ๐Ÿ˜ญ Iโ€™m trying to figure out how to add another wallet.

Which is so weird (bad weird not good) because if itโ€™s my #btc, who are they to tell me how much Iโ€™m allowed to spend?

The amount is not important. The act is โค๏ธ

Weird โ€ฆ I guess lowering my amount allows Sats โ€ฆ THANKS ๐Ÿ™

As Iโ€™ve been here under various names Iโ€™ve sought to zap โšก๏ธ many with larger amounts as a belated thank you. ๐Ÿ™ Humbly said. Does this make sense?

Iโ€™m also keeping a future list to zap โšก๏ธ later. Still figuring out zap

Culture ๐Ÿ˜‚๐ŸŒท๐Ÿ˜…

I'm a kind father... patience is something I'm learning.

It's not an insignificant achievement to be a kind and patient father๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

I always thought I was an easy going guy who didn't really struggle with emotional outbursts.

Turns out all I needed was a couple of kids to blow that mental model apart.

Every day is a battle between the emotional and rational sides of my brain, when responding to my kids being dicks.

To me it helps to think that my son sometimes acts out because itโ€™s the only thing he knows how to do atm. It helps me understand that itโ€™s not that he is being an asshole, but rather that he is doing his best in the pursuit of his own happiness. My role is to patiently and gradually show him better ways.

This mentality also overflowed in my life towards other people who act out. Itโ€™s their best take in trying to live a happy life, so I try to not take it personally as best as I can.

Yep - I've read all the books man, and of course they don't act out to deliberately spite you.

That's a difficult sell though when you're on a few hours sleep, you're hungry and your kid has just hit you round the face.

Totally get you!!

Yeah thatโ€™s true, can confirm it from my own fatherhood of four. But you need to be open for change.

Them kids put you at test every freaking second of the day though ๐Ÿคฃ

I just realized that I consider you a close friend that I've never met. What a strange thing.

Bromances ๐Ÿ‘ฏโ€โ™‚๏ธ FTW ๐Ÿ™Œ

I feel the same way, but we did hug in Miami ๐Ÿซ‚ lol

Amen to that brother! Keep up the great work! Parenting isn't easy but it is fulfilling. I also have taken a way lessons in both kindness and patience that have made me a better person (and father).

Being a kind and patient father makes you the perfect people manager ๐Ÿ’–

Keep the patience when they become teenagers...

Being smart is not an option, either you are or you are not. Genes, early stimuly, proper education and nutrition from a young age sets intelligence in stone.

Being kind and patient on the other hand can be cultivated.

You donโ€™t think you can increase your intelligence? What about neuroplasticity?

Indeed, one can increase knowledge and experience but IQ seems to only go down after the age of 22-24.

The only thing that helps with brain function is physical exercise. But it only slows down the decay.

Both are hard ๐Ÿฅฒ

I'm doing the hard bit first apparently ๐Ÿ˜‚

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being a child and also patient is difficult indeed

true, but patience can sometimes lead to inaction. Knowing when to act is just as important as being kind and patient

Words to live by

uufff that is true

I just thought about this the other day when discussing bitcoin with my friends. It's tiring to repeat the same ideas without sounding condescending ๐Ÿซ 

Even being kind isn't that hard. Patience? The hardest thing in the world.

To remain persevering and consistent **

Being wealthy would be better๐Ÿ˜… You can skip the whole kindness and patience thing altogether, you could invest wherever you like, nostr, bluesky, etc

With credit to my amazing wife, nostr:npub19pj6f0nc9q6xr26qe3g8m6xe3hwe0d6p6zcvf57cm3kayghjdj0slnlenu, the mantra that our son hears every single day is to โ€œbe patient and kind.โ€

A clever man is one who can think on his feet, a wise man is one who can think on his knees. #iam14andthisisdeep

Itโ€™s the other way around for many.

I believe our god given strengths are what we find easy.

Our deficiencies, or opportunities to grow more complete, are what we find hard.

Who are kind and patient accounts to follow on #nostr?

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Agree with you.

What about being kind

of smart?

I like that โ˜บ๏ธ

Hi Smith

Smiths in the house ๐Ÿค๐Ÿงก Hello ๐Ÿ‘‹

SFTW

you can either be right, or win.

or you can live alone :)

You studied IT right? Can you help me fix my printer

Long breath and goes on

Ebb and flow

Maybe for you

...and me

๐Ÿ’ฏ couldn't agree for more! ๐Ÿค“๐Ÿ‘

Patience is a virtue

patience is harder than kindness for me but fatherhood, bitcoin and mediation are helping

Bitcoin mindset helps all in someway

Is there a difference between patience and low time preference?

#patience is about enduring the wait, but #lowtimepreference is about choosing to wait for something #better.

One is about coping with the #present, the other is about #investing in the #future and requires #POW and a new #mindset.

Although they seem similar, they are not!

Itโ€˜s nice to be important but itโ€™s more important to be nice.

Itโ€™s not so much about being โ€œniceโ€ but compassionate

Especially for bitcoiners i think ๐Ÿฅฒ

1000% ... the family... the job... the gym... the music... the meditation time... and contiue study Bitcoin slowly but moving forward ๐Ÿ’ช

Disagree with this take.

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Well said. Iโ€™m going to send this one to my kids.

Be patient

Be persevering!

You also tend to think of yourself as being kinder and more patient than the person opposite you thinks you are

So let as all give a little bit more ๐Ÿคฉ

All falls under discipline!