Imagine a nuclear family of 5 in the United States. Imagine they were based and well-nourished and loved each other wholeheartedly like a proper family should.

Does it make sense for each of the 3 kids to rush out of the parent’s home when they’re 18 and start paying at least $3,000/month to live alone in the modern world? 3 rent payments, 3 TVs, 3 power bills, 3 internet payments, 3 shower curtains, 3 doormats, on and on and on. 3k covers the bare minimum to get by too, not much able to accumulate wealth at that age and experience.

Or…

Would it make more sense for the progeny to stay with the parents, help them and help take care of the homestead, and allow the kids to start accumulating capital while they also start a trade / career / business and remain in a constructive and loving family environment? The later is clearly the better option.

I understand this wouldn’t work in every case and circumstance but it should be more normal and something parents strive to provide.

There is absolutely no way I would raise a family and not want them to stay with me as long as they wanted. I would buildout a righteous compound and encourage remaining a unit until the end. The isolationist norms of today ain’t right…

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I love it

100 agree with you

It's got its trade offs, pros, and cons.

It's the rugged individualism that causes European Descended Americans to be successful but on The Flip Side Asians, and Hispanics are more communal, and Family Focused which also works out.

But I agree, I don't get what this weird boomer fetish is with kicking your kids out without giving them time to accumulate some capital first.

I think it does depend on the child but agree that there’s efficacy in building the infrastructure to allow for that potential outcome. I live on 12 acres hoping each of my boys build their own house on our land.

Love this.

Kids can be well rounded adults and stay home a little longer. Work and save serious money before moving out.

Who cares what anyone thinks about that. Your family, your joy! ✌🏼

I have this instinct too, of having an extended family and working together. But my family was kinda whack, my mother a religious nutter and my father absent to avoid my mother. So it didn't work out for me.

I love this take! I see this type family living as very natural. Unfortunately, the fiat babysitting complex that we call education indoctrinates kids. Kids that educate at home are around there parents like 70 more hours a week if you do the math! The parent child relationship is weak or broken by the time they reach 18. Ultimately, strong family units mean a weak government.