I zap on stacker.news and nostr I also buy things like coffee (although I have way too much now) from https://www.lightningnetworkstores.com/ (best online Bitcoin store discovery system I've found so far) as well as when I'm traveling I try to check btcmap.org to see if I'm near a store that accepts Bitcoin.

May have purchased something from some people at Bitcoin meetups as well

The first lightning wallet I tried was electrum. At first I was frustrated not knowing how to route with it, but then I just accepted that I don't need to be routing payments. Found Phoenix after that experience and I've been happy since.