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I hate that most people never give constructive criticisms. Like real, thought out criticisms. I do it all the damn time of course. But most people just would never tell me shit, and they'd get pissed at me for this that or the other thing while never giving me any information for how to improve. That's like how at most jobs I've had, they didn't even really train me and then they expected me to just suddenly understand everything. And they presume so much, making logical errors all the time, but freak out whenever I get something wrong. It's ludicrous to me. Am I just pathetic? Am I not taking the initiative to figure things out as much as I think I am? Or is it that they ignore subtleties and I don't? That they're wrong and every time they think I'm worse than average, I'm actually just different so they get false positives because they're used to normies?

B 5mo ago

I will never understand managers that don’t invest their time into training their team. I will also never understand a manager who gets angry with someone who makes a mistake. We are all human so we all make mistakes.

Mistakes should be seen as learning/training opportunities. Working gently through a mistake with someone empowers them for the future.

If you yell at people they are more likely to hide their mistake rather than own it and want to correct it.

Constructive compassionate criticism wins the day 💜

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Kevin's Bacon 5mo ago

My supervisor is far too agreeable to yell or be overtly angry. She does have a bit of a high time preference though. At the same time she is compassionate and tries to understand, but like, assumes and is a slave to her own emotions rather than taking the time to really understand what's going on, like most normies. She's a compassionate normie. One of those people who believes altruism solves everything. I appreciate how much she cares but I hate it when she's nice to me. I don't need niceness, self sacrifice for perceptions of what she thinks I want. I need feedback and thoughtful guidance without assumption.

B 5mo ago

Have you asked for feedback or help?

Kevin's Bacon 5mo ago

Yes. I'm getting some. It's a work in progress.