the truth is: no one has worked harder to earn my trust and to protect me. so it's not really about permission it's about trust. I would rather NOT have a bunch of women always trying to humiliate me because they're jealous. I will NOT share my husband with other women, or vice versa, and that's NOT about the children whatsoever. they aren't ever going to be a problem to me as long as the mothers respect my boundaries and don't try to interfere with our marriage. very often, children are put in the middle of this and I would rather not have that happen for everybody's sake.

I believe in marriage. I think it is sacred. and so is family.

if I can't have that, then I don't want it.

I'm not the one who needs to make that choice. I'm not a man.