There’s this concept called the “pygmalion effect” - on the expectations others have on you that can become a self fulfilling prophecy. There’s a famous study by Rosenthal and Jacobsen (1968) - these 2 folks randomly selected a few students and lied to their teacher saying that these students are “gifted with unusual potentials” and identified the rest as average. The teachers subconsciously focused more on the “gifted” students through better feedback and supportive actions, and 8 months later these “gifted” students gained an average of two IQ points in verbal ability, seven points in reasoning and four points in overall IQ.

The idea is that good expectations leads to a good outcome and a low expectation, one that puts down other people, leads to a negative outcome. I’m sure there are more nuances to this.

As I was reading through this concept, I was also thinking about how one identifies themselves as a giver or a taker. Some might read this and say “hey I want to be a positive force in someone else’s life” .

Others might say “I’m like this because I didn’t get the support from A, B and C” . I think this can be dangerous as it allows others to rule your life, emotions and thoughts, and you end up playing the blame game when things go wrong. It becomes a 'battered syndrome' vicious cycle. I think awareness, being self conscious and honest with yourself helps.

I also think in order to receive this positive energy, you send that wavelength out into the universe; give and you shall receive. And hopefully we meet more people with a balanced exchange of these energies.

Hope everyone has a calm and positive day, in whichever way, mean and form ❤️