I participate in the dance but in my own way.

I'm mid 40s & well trained in normie social activities (as taxing as they are). I have lots of my own tools & a pretty robust framework. I got so good at blending in that few paid me much attention (until I discovered Bitcoin, grew a big arsed beard & let out my inner autist 😆).

I think I'm pretty good surfing between normies and autists. Normie conversations tend to be really shallow but most of my anxiety around them has gone.

I've always been a bit of a normie-autist translator. I can see the technicality that the autist is stuck on & also what the normie is asking. I usually hear both the literal question & inferred question.