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Well, my husband and I are both authors, so we make our own schedule, so at least he can have 100% of both of our time present, even though we'll be prioritizing each other first, cause that's the best way to love him.

Also, I'm not sure I'll find baby crying rude. 🤔 Now, if he started calling me names because I'm not up yet when he wants food, well, that'd be a different story 🤣

Wasted Potential 4mo ago

If it’s your first, I think you won’t be able to prioritize each other. Hormones or not, brains stop working. Communication becomes sparse from your husband and not for his lack of trying.

We have my in-laws living 30 mins out who think we should be able to handle the baby ourselves in my week off( I work week on, week off schedule). Feels like a full time job in my week off with my wife expecting me to do more as I’m home. Can’t explain to them why it’s not as simple as that especially when I can’t get anything done in my week on due to 1 hour commute and 12 hr shifts.

Your situation is different but I’m sure there’ll be things that’ll come by. Be sure to hire help at least for 2 months or so.

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AnnSofiNovelist 4mo ago

Bless you! Sounds really tough!

I've only worked 12hx2 with shorter days outside of that, and I was beat at the end of it, and I lived across the street! So, having a hour commute outside of that sounds really hard.

I'd need at least a day or two to recover from that kind of work!

My husband communicates more than me, so I doubt I'd come across that issue. Pressure makes women's brains go slower, so if there's a lot going on or there's tension, I'd probably be the one more likely to lose my words.

However, we have Jesus, and have been learning a lot of tools for how to share all our secrets, what things contribute to us, and making deals, so I look forward to this new season. 😇