My wife is like that too.

My wife: "I don't want to do X."

Me: "okay."

My wife: "but didn't you want to do X?"

Me: "kinda, but it's okay."

My wife: "UGH!!!!! WHY DIDN'T YOU FIGHT MEEEE!!!! UGH YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO FIGHT ME AND ARGUE WITH ME! NOW MY DAY IS ALL RUINED!!! WHY CAN'T YOU DO WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO!!! YOU'RE THINKING IS SO FLAWED. WHY ARE YOU NOT TALKING TO MEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!! FINE HATE ME, I DON'T CARE.