Do you believe you can make true friends after the age of 35 ? I’m finding it impossible to have genuine friendships 1. Since being sober. 2. Falling down the rabbit hole on BTC 3. Not being the one to initiate conversation on WhatsApp or whatever medium.
I’m pretty chilled being alone but thought just crossed my mind.
#asknostr #bitcoin
I think the opportunities to make friends in the adult world are drastically harder than as a kid with school.
With school you’re basically forced to interact with people in your age group, and region to become friends with.
Outside of school you’re not forced to go anywhere, so there’s no commitment to make any long term relationships since you can avoid people if you want to.
I’m not sure why this is the case but I think it’s because a fair portion of adults are burdened with families by that point, and make friends with the parents at Baseball, soccer, or American football practice groups, or whatever.
Yeah man, and my position I’m in - I really cannot stand frivolous conversations..
99% of people talk about the same shit in a different way..
I don’t have kids so the whole schooling thing doesn’t really apply..
Well, that’s the problem for the small percent of us who are interested in the bigger conversations in general.
Most of my friends are coworkers but a lot of them talk about small stuff, though I have friends that I talk about more in depth topics with too.
You are lucky.. I haven’t found any people who have an idea of chatting deeply about what is actually happening.. it’s because money is taboo being spoken about…
Nostr is a cool place to communicate with people on the same page!
Yeah, I am fortunate to have found good people in my life.
You need to value the people in your life.
The Almighty will grant you good friends I am sure of it.
In due time, more people will become aware of the things going on.
I do but it’s going to be difficult.
I think it’s hard to make genuine friends in general because people have become very transactional and that doesn’t make for strongly bonded relationships. People are struggling to meet their needs so they don’t have the capacity to develop themselves into a good friend.
I’ve met several people in the bitcoin space who are so busy building that unless you’re doing that they don’t have time for you. I’ve also met people who can’t interact with people who drink because it’ll disrupt their sobriety. It can also feel one sided when you’re always checking on others but they don’t check on you. All of the things that make you feel alone are also things that make you an interesting person.
Your tribe will see that and know it. Those will be the people that’ll be your friend and they’ll be great at any age.
I hope so but where I’m from if there are 200 people countrywide who have an understanding on BTC and what is actually happening in the world..
Maybe I must just accept that I’ll be alone by myself for awhile and I’m happy but someone who use to be the social one.. then Saifedean wrote his book 🤣🤣
I totally understand! There is nothing wrong with being alone! You have time to build self awareness and that’s an attribute of an awesome friend!!
Taking the orange pill kind of ostracized me within my community back home. People I considered friends or who I really wanted to build relationships with annoyed me because they didn’t understand and they weren’t interested in learning.
I thought going to bitcoin conferences would make it easier to have likeminded friends … it didn’t. I met some awesome people but they weren’t very relational away from the conference stages. Which can be really confusing, hurtful, and isolating.
People make time for the people they want to spend time with and they befriend people they value. Some of the strongest relationships I’ve built have come from #nostr because people here tend to understand what makes a person valuable beyond what they can do for you.
Nostr is phenomenal.. one it’s because you can be yourself and not get feed bullshit from the algorithms and you get honest no nonsense responses I’ve found..
I haven’t been to conferences but it’s difficult because of my fiat mining job because if I get “caught” it could jeopardize the company because of our client base…
Idk, I think it is. You just have to want to seek it. Perhaps it could be more difficult now with us on the Bitcoin train, and many that I know aren't quite there yet, so that could impose some difference and challenges. But, I think good friends can still be made/found regardless
I also by choice try and live extremely lean and spend my free time educating myself.. the whole 10 000 hours is true to get deeper and deeper in the rabbit hole…
Start doing activities with strangers, like golf. 🤙🏌️♂️
I’ve played golf since I was 12… bit over it being out there for 5-6 hours at a time - I’ll figure something out..
Well #3 sounds like a problem, if you don't initiate, you are leaving friendships up to chance. Find some group activities like sports, meetups, crafting clubs, whatever and meet people there. Volunteering is a great way to meet people.
