Do you have any good resources you can point me towards to understand your arguments here?

Relatively new bitcoiner and I am having trouble navigating this debate to choose the software I want my node to run on.

I think I understand the core pov. I think I understand the knots pov. Both from a semi technical perspective.

What I am struggling with is reconciliating the governance methods. Core v30's decision to "censor" the debate on GitHub, and Dashjr's decision to soft fork or whatever he wants to do.

I don't think I understand why either camps took these measures. Neither of them seem like a gesture of good faith and/or rational thinking.