Honor. None of this matters without an orientation towards bringing honor to your "us" .
The word is nearly banished and gone. Without it we are just fancy chimps. We need it back. 
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That is very interesting i fully agree honor is important to have but in my view that is more a universal thing but i think i get how you link the two
Honor used to be a universal value. It has faded from conversation and prominence and centrality. Without the orientation to honourable behaviour ppl have find it difficult to be consistently kind, generous, selfless, brave, strong etc. not a judgement. just an observation.