yup. change has to come from within. it reminds me of an old story i like to tell. i'll post amanda palmer's version since i don't feel like typing it 😅

A farmer is sitting on his porch in a chair, hanging out.

A friend walks up to the porch to say hello, and hears an awful yelping, squealing sound coming from inside the house.

"What's that terrifyin' sound?" asks the friend.

"It's my dog," said the farmer. "He's sittin' on a nail."

"Why doesn't he just sit up and get off it?" asks the friend.

The farmer deliberates on this and replies:

"Doesn't hurt enough yet.

Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking; or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help